Is your new beau causing confusion by his seemingly “playing hard to get” actions? What if he’s not playing hard to get, but just playing you?
So maybe your new man has taken one from the old playbook. He’s decided that in order to catch your interest, he’s got to play hard to get. Or maybe he’s just making you think that but really hitting the town with a bunch of other gals he’s picked up.
Here’s how to spot if a guy is simply playing hard to get, or just playing you.
Signs that he’s playing hard to get:
1- His texts are long but infrequent.
When someone is trying to play hard to get, their first thought is to not text back right away. Even if they are right by their phone just waiting for your reply, they want to make it look like they’re not trying too hard and to make you wait forever for their response – which builds our anticipation.
But in order for this to make sense, his replies must be lengthy and detailed to show that he was paying attention and actually wants to keep the conversation going.
2- He says he’s “busy” but still makes plans.
Men who want to make you want more are going to make you wait. This is a classic sign of playing hard to get. If you ask him to dinner the next night, he might say no – which will make you only want to see him more.If he’s truly interested and just playing it cool, then he will offer a different date and time to get dinner. This shows that he’s still interested and wants to see you, but that he might just be making you want it a little more before giving in to your requests.
3- When he isn’t “busy,” your conversations are meaningful.
When you do finally get a chance to sit down and spend some time with him, he’s very forthcoming with insight into his life. You both can easily have deep conversations about the future, your goals, and your desires. So even though he played hard to get before spending time with you, that time is well spent, and that means he’s really interested.
4- He’s elusive but later gives you the details.
When the two of you are divulging information about each other’s families, friends, careers, and any other personal information, he may be coy at first. He may just raise his eyebrows and ask, “Wouldn’t you like to know?” This is a super flirty and fun way for people to avoid things they don’t want to talk about. But if he jokes for a minute and then actually tells you what you asked of him, then it’s simply a sign that he’s playing hard to get.
5- He makes an effort sometimes.
Men who are trying to play hard to get aren’t going to be making every single plan with you. They want to seem chill and uninterested in order to peak your interest even more than they already have.But if he lets you do all the plans for a little while but also asks you on a couple of dates, then the poor guy is just taking things the old route and simply playing hard to get for you. It’s cute, really.